7 Ways On How To Improve Your Mindset And Well-Being
For the last past year, I’ve been researching ways to improve everything in regards to my mind. The keywords that I encountered constantly have been “mindset” and “perspective”. From that came the name of my website, obviously…
As I evolved, I concluded that I wanted to help everyone’s lives, guiding them towards a better place. Can I?
In this post, I’ll leave some tips on how to improve your mindset, step by step. I’ll try to be your GPS in a lost world, per se. So, are you ready
1) Mindset and what we perceive as valuable
Our mindset is automated to perceive us as society demands.
And although it’s not wrong by any means, some of us don’t want to belong in a herd, we rather be ourselves (I know that’s a cliché but clichés are good) and be free of those invisible chains that society tries to impose on our lives.
As a result, it’s not quite acceptable to be different or to improve your mindset in your own direction.
Mainly, my goal is for you to value everything. That’s the first step toward improvement.
When I say everything is literally it.
Even despair, even pain. Which, I think, despite being tough to handle, is your best teacher. It all has value. First and foremost it means you are here and not drifting elsewhere. And that’s a positive.
As you begin your journey to improve your mindset, your perspective, you have to change the little things. Noticed how many times I used “your”?
You control everything, there’s no one above you to dictate your path, there’s nothing else besides you to change everything. You are here. Living. Breathing.
2) Check your perspective
Please, zoom out. I mean, seriously.
Close your eyes and imagine our universe. Our size compared to all that majesty and grandeur, basically compare our finite life to the infinity beyond our eyes. How meaningless are we? Our problems. Our little dramas.
Yup. It’s amazing. Yet, it’s hard to have that kind of perspective. In regards to that, on a daily basis, we, as humans, don’t even care about zooming out, challenging our perspective. We take everything for granted.
For example, we look at the stars as some sort of ordinary thing, like Oreos in a grocery store (even Oreos deserve some contemplation, such sweet delicious creation!). It’s curious if you think deeply about it. In fact, it is.
We can see it every day. But, do you? Moreso, our perspective only changes whenever an unexpected event occurs or we change our environment. Obviously, it’s only a temporary stimulation.
For example, do you think about the children in Africa that are starving whenever you’re dining an enormous beef? Of course not.
But, if you travel there and see at first hand the lack of conditions, the utterly heartbreaking lives of some people, your perspective will change instantly.
It changed mine. Likewise, death can make your mental make-up change suddenly, in those moments, you truly value life and understand deeply the meaning of carpe diem (or YOLO in today’s society) and how our lives are so transient.
How can we change that? How can we value life all the time?
3) What stops you from being happy?
Now, zoom in. In short, search way beyond your typical thought process. In other words, what makes you unhappy?
Firstly, I want you to write down your frustrations, what gives you pain (please, don’t mention your epic falls on the street or the hangovers, ok?), what makes you unhappy and unable to enjoy life in a daily basis.
You really need to do that.
Write everything, it’s a great tool to keep you focused. As time goes by you’ll check whatever you wrote and see at what stage you currently are. As a result, you’ll know what you need to change, right? That’s good.
Likewise, I’ve done that and I would probably guess some of your problems, consequently you can change all that. It’s challenging, so it’s good. Who doesn’t like a good challenge?
In today’s world, we see more and more people that focus on ways to improve your mindset. From Robin Sharma, to Gary Vee, to Tony Robbins. And, as their success implies, it results and is as important as anything.
It’s science, the brain controls everything, so it’s logical to assume that what we think can lead us to different paths.
4) What do you want to change?
Once you name all your demons I want you to write the changes that you would love to make on your life, even the smallest ones, in order to improve your way of thinking. Therefore, your mind will shift toward something positive.
Subsequently, your passions are next in order. Yes, you’ll access what gives you motivation, what would you be able to carry through with no boredom or misery involved.
It doesn’t matter your age or what do you love to do. Everyone can change their mindset, believe me, my friend’s mother did it and she is 50 years old, so no excuses. If you love acting, write it down. Photography? Good. Gardening? Amazing.
Also, there are some little things that I want you to approach and change within the concepts of your life, all right? Firstly, upgrade the quality of your thoughts. To clarify, think less negatively.
As we all know, it’s way easier to fall down the well in a spiral of negativity, it’s even comfortable. Therefore, we need to have the urge to fight it, to find some joy in everything we do in all these banalities that appear on a daily basis in our lives. Above all, look always at the positive side of things.
5) Be weird
In the same vein, be yourself. It’s the biggest and most used cliché ever, and although it’s being misused, it’s still the main idea to achieve happiness.
However, the hardship to attain such pure milestone is, most of the times, soul-wrecking. Why? It’s simple: we are easily influenced by our environment. That is to say, our friends, our family, our colleagues, our country, our neighborhood, everything.
Therefore, to be yourself at the fullest is really fucking hard. Our parents always want the best for us, but don’t have the perspective to see the bigger picture.
It’s so ironic: when we were kids, we ought by our parents to read the most known fairytales, to fantasize, to dream, to be weird and be everything that we truly wanted to be. As we grow up, it’s a gradual process toward oblivion.
The kid that wanted to be an astronaut erased that dream to chase some boring career that makes him miserable. We are led by the most powerful book ever written: “How to be a normal adult”, by Society. So, burn that book, run away from the doors of imprisonment and write your own. It’s going to be okay, relax.
It strikes us every time. Some of us have bills to pay, have a family to feed, have responsibilities to fulfill, I know that. And to improve your mindset you can live within those restraints. So, to clarify, don’t think that I am ever longing fantasizing and don’t take into account the reality of life in general.
Yet, there’s time to pursue the goals that make you truly happy. I’m not advising you to give up your full-time job and pursue your dream job, but at least, in your free time, try hard. Learn, search, evolve.
We live in the golden era of opportunities so grab them. Every day, we have 24 hours to progress, to achieve something. Small steps count for something. Set small goals, don’t settle.
In other words, if you want a castle, you should go brick by brick, and at the end of the year, you’ll have 365 bricks. That’s the process and the most important thing. What joy would you have if instead of climbing the mountain you would be dropped at the top of it? None. The process counts and makes us happy.
7) Be kind
We as humans (I’m pretty sure it’s a trait that everyone has) judge a lot, we love gossiping, we love talking about other people’s lives. How good is it to shut your brain for a while, don’t stress about our own selves and just comment on everybody’s lives? Awesome. I know, I know.
But, we should be less “human” and be more human. What do I mean? Value people. Praise, compliment. The power of a compliment it’s huge. I’m not talking about scripted compliments that are used on Instagram. I’m talking about pure and honest compliments.
Even the smallest one can give motivation. I’m really tired of people always joking and never valuing their friends and families. We all do it because it’s way easier to joke compared to give a heartfelt compliment.
Be a helper, don’t judge. You don’t know shit about other people’s lives. Therefore, how can you judge their actions?
What made them do whatever you think they did wrong could have a reason beyond your assumptions. And instead of listening with the purpose to answer about you, just listen to help someone, just listen to hear somebody’s story. Control your ego. Be kind.